I am proud to live in a state that has made more room for people of all orientations.
Clearly we have a great deal more work ahead so that no one wonders who they are or so no child feels threatened as they begin to discover who they actually are. While we cannot insulate our little state from the horrors of news around the world, we can wrap our arms around and celebrate all regardless, and face our own fears to the contrary along the way.
To those who still doubt that humans come in many shades of the rainbow, look around and let yourselves be inspired rather than fearful. My father-in-law, when he was nearly 100 years old, gave his own wedding ring to his daughter and walked her down the aisle so she could take the love of her life as her legal wife.
I have also been inspired by so many wonderful, courageous people who let the world know the “closets” we had put them in for years were not where they would continue to live — they came out, literally, to share their magnificence with the world.
As for people who are able to claim and transition from their birth selves into their true selves, I’d include you and your honesty and bravery anywhere in this life we share. I am thankful the world has made more room for these “different” people because we are all the better for it.
While inspiring, I can also see it is not easy. The hurtful stares, snide remarks, the too often vicious, violent acts that are still part of every single day for too many LGBTIQA+ are unacceptable in today’s world. It is still so hard to see kids, in particular, struggle, too often because they are berated and told they are wrong for who they actually are.
Growing up is confusing enough without adding vilifying hate to the mix. They need our support and caring and, honestly, protection, more now than ever. I know for parents these times of seeking can also be confusing, but please know that many have traveled this road before, with love and sharing, and there is support for families in need of it.
I grew up in an intolerant world, having along the way learned how horrifying that was/is for many and that it does not need to be so. If you still feel afraid, please open your eyes and hearts to the fact that LGBTIQA+ people are literally everywhere and have long been; they are our sisters, brothers, fathers and mothers, uncles and aunties, friends and co-workers.
They deserve a safe place in life, as we all do, and each of us can do our part to make that a reality for everyone, every day. I’m proud of the distances we’ve come and take pride knowing we will do better — starting today.
John Snell
Montpelier
