Gary Gay, Sr., army veteran, drummer, great-grandfather

Gary R. Gay, Sr., 71, passed away peacefully, Tuesday, November 22, 2022, at home, surrounded by loved ones. Gary was born on August 14, 1951, in Danbury, CT to the late Francis and Anna (Kenney) Gay.

Spending most of his youth in Danbury, CT, Gary left school and joined the United States Army. He was a member of the distinguished 101st Airborne Division. After completing two tours of duty in Vietnam, Gary was honorably discharged, beginning a new journey in his life as husband and father.

Throughout Gary’s youth he was very active in various fife, drum, and bugle corps throughout the states of Connecticut and Vermont. He loved playing the drums, and the camaraderie and friendships he made along the way, especially his friends from the United States Association of Rudimental Drummers and the Black River Fife and Drum Corps. Additionally, Gary was an active member of the Community Bible Chapel in Brattleboro, VT.

Assisting the family with arrangements is the Cremation Society of New Hampshire, Brattleboro. To view Gary’s online tribute, send condolences to the family, or for more information, please visit

Family Information

Gary was predeceased by his brother Francis Gay, Jr., and his sister Sharron Simao.

He is survived by his beloved children; Carrie-Ann Riendeau, Gary Gay Jr., Theresa Gay, Steven Gay, and Josh Gay, his cherished siblings; Doug Kenney, Darlene Lombardo, Debbie Hyde, Audrey Coffey, and Melissa Coffey. Gary will be missed by eight loving grandchildren, 2 great grandchildren, and many nieces and nephews.

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